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Family Relationship Toolkit

This section compiles selected HPRC resources in one place to help military family support groups, centers, family advocacy programs, and spouse groups find tools that support their mission. These resources provide information on relationship building, managing emotions, fostering physical fitness, and nutrition for the family (with information for children and teens) and to help you and your family recharge.

Building Relationships

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Relationships: Express and Explain

Being able to communicate well is essential for happy relationships. When there is something important that someone want to talk about with his or her loved one, the guidelines on this card can help.

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Relationships: Making Decisions

Families need to make a lot of decisions and solve a lot of problems together. Check out the guidelines on this card to improve a family’s chances of getting to a decision or solving a problem.

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Relationships: How Not to Destroy Yours

There are four characteristics that deteriorate relationships over time. Learn about them in this card by HPRC.


Performance Strategies: Keeping Strong Family Relationships for Military Life
Maintaining strong family relationships can require some new skills or perspectives over time. Learn some relationship skills that are relevant for many families, but especially for the military lifestyle.


Performance Strategies: For Single Warfighters coming home
Know someone who is coming home from deployment as a single Warfighter? Check out HPRC’s 10 strategies for helping him or her ease back home.


Performance Strategies: Basic Training for Couples—Communication
HPRC offers a set of strategies that couples can put to work on improving their communication.

Building Family Resilience
Learn how to build family resilience in the military family during and following deployment.

Nutrition & Fitness

This section compiles resources to foster family fitness, with information targeted to promote healthy living and nutrition and physical fitness information for children and teens.

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Nutrition: Your Child and Sports Drinks

Download this card from HPRC for information on children and sports drinks.

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Fueling the Adolescent Athlete Before, During and After Practice or Workouts

Strategies for performing at one’s best can start early. This resource created by HPRC can help the adolescent athlete fuel his or her body for optimal performance. The table provides general guidelines for what to drink and eat before, during, and after practice or workouts.

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Healthy Living for Children and Families

Check out this postcard from HPRC that provides four easy-to-remember tips for raising healthy kids.

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Fitness for Children and Teens

Download this card from HPRC with exercise guidelines for children and teens to build aerobic fitness, strength, and strong bones.

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Strength Training: Strong Children and Teens

Download this card from HPRC for tips on how children can safely start a strength-training program.


Put some fun in your children’s fitness
Exercise time can be playtime for children. Kids need at least 60 minutes of exercise per day. Learn what is recommended and some ideas for activities.

Running strategies for children and teens
Is your child interested in running as a sport? Check out some helpful strategies on proper running form, hydration, and other tips to ensure your child is safe and gets the most out of this healthy activity. 


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Peak Performance: Sleep

Sleep is important for performance. This postcard from HPRC helps people assess the quality of their sleep habits.


10 Effective Sleep Habits for Everyone [PDF]
Learn 10 effective sleep habits that can help everyone optimize their sleep in this handout with tips from WRAIR.

The impact of sleep loss on total fitness
A significant factor that Warfighters face in attempting to achieve total fitness is getting enough sleep to prevent dangerous fatigue, which can impact many aspects of fitness.

Nap to be at your best mentally [PDF]
Didn’t get enough sleep last night? Learn how to nap so your mind can perform at its best.

Managing Emotions

Managing emotions are central to strong relationships. Check out the following resources to help others manage their emotions.

Performance Strategies: 5 Steps to Managing Anger in Relationships
Anger’s a normal emotion, but unchecked, it can wreak havoc. Here are some tips for how to effectively manage anger in relationships. Read more in HPRC’s “Performance Strategies: 5 Steps to Managing Anger.” Click here for a downloadable PDF.

FOCUS Emotional Awareness Activities [PDF]
Everyone in the family can benefit from learning ways to manage emotions. FOCUS created four worksheets that describe different activities family members (even children) can try.

FOCUS Calming & Grounding Activities [PDF]
One of the things children and teens can learn from their families is how to manage emotions and stress. Some great strategies families can use to manage high emotions and stress are abdominal breathing, deep breathing, guided imagery, visualization, progressive muscle relaxation, and progressive muscle relaxation for younger children. The FOCUS program created these worksheets that describe each one.

Feeling Thermometer Worksheet [PDF]
A common image people can use to talk about emotion management—particularly anger—is a thermometer. Parents can use the image of a thermometer to talk to their children about where they are on the “anger” scale. This is a great way to understand children’s feelings and talk with them about how to process emotions when they get too hot, so their anger temperature goes down.